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Offline Goodiez Chibuike Nwachukwu

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I went to a family wedding in Washington DC this past week. I mention it because wives have been on my mind thanks to the comments made by Nigerian President Muhammadu Buhari about his wife.

The president had offered what was supposed to be one of the biggest put downs in public discourse: “My wife belongs in the kitchen, in the living room and in the other room.”

In other words, President Buhari was suggesting that his wife had stepped outside her allotted space by talking about politics.

Political talk does not belong in the kitchen, governance talk does not belong in the living room and electoral matters do not belong in the other room.

I acknowledge that the president’s spokesperson has urged all of us to get a life and recognise that President Buhari was joking and we should not take his words seriously and I will keep this firmly in my mind.

So where does my family wedding come into the discussion, or maybe the legitimate question is where do marriage ceremonies belong? In the kitchen, in the living room or in the other room?

In Ghana, marriages are the coming together of two families rather than the coming together of two individuals.

At the ceremony that I went to in Washington DC, Naabia the bride is my niece, the daughter of Ghanaian parents, who has lived her life so far in the Washington DC area.

John, the groom was born and bred by Texan parents with Italian, Scottish and Welsh roots.

I discovered during the weekend of the various ceremonies that John’s family was not in the least bit phased by the prospect of “the coming together of two families” as I had feared.

John’s father was however very unhappy with the fact that according to Ghanaian custom, there was no place for men in the marriage ceremony; apart from the groom that is.

The entire Ghanaian traditional marriage ceremony is conducted by the women on both sides of the family and men are only allowed to sit in as spectators.

“The things Aisha Buhari said in her interview with the BBC Hausa Service have probably been said by many other Nigerians and I suspect the president has heard them.”

At the end of it all, I promised John’s father I might consider leading a movement to change the discrimination against men in Ghana which shuts them out of playing roles in marriage ceremonies.

The events of this past week involving two very high profile wives have brought the issue very much to the fore for me.

The First Lady of the United States (Flotus) Michelle Obama and the First Lady of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (Flofron) Aisha Buhari, within hours of each other had captured the headlines in the most spectacular manner.

The things Mrs Buhari said in her interview with the BBC Hausa Service have probably been said by many other Nigerians and I suspect the president has heard them.

He knows that the same words coming from his wife, however suddenly assume more significance.

Then there has been the dramatic intervention of Michelle Obama in the Donald Trump “locker-room” tape brouhaha.

With one speech, she elevated the US election debate to a higher, more dignified level.

Mrs Obama speaks from the kitchen, she speaks from the living room, she speaks from the street, she speaks from the campaign trail and yes, she speaks from “the other room” also known as the bedroom.

Dear Mr Buhari, we do not shy away from mentioning the bedroom.

Mrs Obama also speaks from the corporate boardroom and wherever she speaks, her words deserve to be listened to.

Aisha Buhari, like Michelle Obama, belongs in, and speaks from, the front room and we hear her.

I think I will support the continuing practice of limiting the marriage ceremony transactions to the females after all.

It emphasizes the point that wives belong in the front room.

The views expressed in this article are the author’s own


Source:  http://latestnigerianews.com.ng/dear-mr-buhari-we-do-not-shy-away-from-mentioning-the-bedroom/


 

 

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